A mature relationship is one in which we can talk, discuss our problems and find a way forward. But in order to have a mature relationship, reason must rule over emotions.
Emotions are good but of we allow emotions to rule our relationships we will destroy them . Emotion has to be under the control of reason . Many people nowdays allow their emotions to rule over them. "If it feels good do it," is the motto of our time.
To live life based on feelings is to be without self control. It would mean if I feel angry, I will act angry. If I feel like eating right now, I will eat right now, whatever I feel at the moment is what I will do. A life based on feeling is a miserable one. A man who live based on how he feels will destroy himself, his relationships and a woman who live based on how she feels will do the same . Our feelings fluctuate, our feelings are inconsistent. One moment you may feel happy and the next moment sad, feelings cannot be trusted, feeling can cloud our judgment.
Imagine you wake one day and feel like you don't to be married to your spouse anymore 👰🏽, what would you do ? Would you get up and go get a divorce or think through the situation and realise you are being irrational and allow reason to prevail? If you are a person who allows feelings to dictate your actions, you will go and get a divorce. This is why it is important not to live based on feelings but based on reason. A mature relationship must be based on reason first.
In Isaiah 1:18 God tells us " come now, and let us reason together." God wants us to reason with Him, to think about things. Our problems is maybe of us don't reason but we make decisions based on feelings and we make disastrous decisions. But God want us to make decisions based on truthful reasoning. God want us to sit down with Him and analyze the facts, analyze why we do the things we do and then He will guide us to make the right decisions.
Think before you act. Feelings are good but only when under the control of reason. God wants us to have self control and every gift He has given us must be put under the control of reason. The Scriptures are our guide to know how we should have a mature relationship. The Bible teach is to be good listeners, be slow to speak, to do research before we make decisions. A mature relationship requires to listen to the other person, to seek to understand their perspective and to make right decisions based on the Word of God, based on reason.
If you want to have beautiful, long lasting relationships with God and others, then you need to be mature in your approach. Don't act based on emotions but submit your emotions to reason. Learn to have conversation without losing self control, without accusing, without being angry. Learn to express yourself and learn to listen to others without being emotional or defensive. It takes maturity to have reasonable conversations. God wants us to be mature in our dealing with others. Let us pray the Lord for strength to rule over our emotions and to be mature in our relationships 🙏🏾
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