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Looking for romantic love?

 You are not alone. Many people in our society are looking for romantic love ❤. Someone to spend the rest of their lives with, someone to rely on, to call their own. The problem is they can't find one. Why is it so hard to find love ❤πŸ˜”πŸ€”?

It's hard to find love because we have a wrong understanding of love and approach things the wrong way 🚷. What does it mean to be loved? To be loved is to be known, accepted, and appreciated. To be loved is not simply an emotion.

One thing that destroy love and make our relationships hard is sex before marriage 🚫. Sex before is purely based on lust. Lust is not concerned with knowing the other person but is only concerned with self satisfaction. Lust sees the other person as an object to be used. Once you start your relationship that way, it becomes difficult for you to know what true love is. You may feel cheap after the fact, you feel devalued and you may become frustrated with your boyfriend/girlfriend because you feel like they are not interested in the real you but only your body.  Lust destroy love in the heart πŸ’”. And this brokenness carry itself into marriage


So now in marriages we find it hard to understand each other because we never knew each other in the first place. We were selfish, consumed with lust, consumed with the desire to satisfy ourselves and not the other. But it's not too late to change. God created marriage πŸ€΅πŸΎπŸ‘°πŸ½ to be a joy, to represent the union of Christ and the church πŸ’’. So how do I make my marriage beautiful and a blessing πŸ€”? I must start to make it a priority to understand, appreciate and cherish my spouse. I must no more make my own satisfaction a priority but my spouse. The first question I must ask is who is my spouse? Do I really know the other person ? What does she like, what does she doesn't like ?

I must seek to know my spouse's love language and do my best to do it. How can I make the life of my spouse a blessing πŸ€΅πŸΎπŸ‘°πŸ½? I need to stop focusing less on the negatives and more on the positives. For 30 days I can write a note to my spouse and each day tell her something I love, admire about her. I can also write a note to her daily telling her what I appreciate about her. See the thing is love awakens love ❤. When you start showing someone true love, they will respond and true love is not a statement,  true love is showing someone that you are interested in knowing them for who she is , not who you wish she was. True love is about showing someone you appreciate them.

Once someone start to feel loved and appreciated,  it will soften their hearts ❤ and love will start to flow out. It takes time for true love to develop. That's why sex before marriage is so destructive, love is not the goal but lust.  Courtship is the Bible way. When you meet someone you are interested in, pray to God about it, ask God for His will. When you get with that person, set boundaries, make it clear no sex before marriage. If they truly want to be with you, they will accept and this way you will root out the selfish ones. Then seek to know, understand and appreciate that person for who he is. Dont try to change the person, but try to love them for who they are

You can start your marriage over, make loving the other person your priority . The problem with marriage in our society is that true love is not known or understood. But you can start today. Love is patient, so be patient with your spouse, ask your spouse about his or her day. Ask your spouse about the things that make her happy 😊. Ask your spouse what can you do to be a better spouse.  Demonstrate to your spouse that you are on his side, not against him, you desire what's good for her and not just seeking your own desires. Daily think about the good things that your spouse do and not the things they are not doing. Love awakens love

So friends, you can have a great romantic relationship with your spouse, you can start today. But you must willing to sacrifice self, you must be willing to focus more on knowing, understanding and appreciating your spouse each and every day. True love is other focused, show your spouse you love him or her, show your spouse you understand him or her and soon, very soon your home will become a little heaven on earth. Make your marriage lovely πŸ€΅πŸΎπŸ‘°πŸ½, avoid sin at all cost and ask the Lord for strength to daily be the spouse He created you to be, the spouse your husband or wife is happy to come home to.  If you want to be loved, you must be loving and love seek the best of others. Pray friends

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